Do you feel like you and your partner have lost your way or are not able to talk to, or hear, each other?

Couples coaching and facilitation could be your magic answer

Coaching and facilitation with me is very different from therapy or counselling. There is no blame, no analysis of who is right or wrong and absolutely no taking sides. Instead we look at what you need as individuals and as a couple to go forward and work out clear strategies for you to get what you both need.

The past is only explored if it’s clearly affecting your ability as a couple to create the future and outcomes you want.

Working together, we rebuild the foundations for you to really understand each other, enabling you to gain confidence in each other and your relationship together, as you learn what is needed to genuinely support each others’ needs.

Very often, the key reasons relationships start to struggle is because you feel that you no longer want the same thing or share the same values. I facilitate you to explore a new joint purpose to your relationship that sustains and nourishes both of your needs and find a common ground in the things that are now important to you both.

Whether you are at the stage in your relationship where you feel there is no where else to go, or you are simply noticing the cracks and want to heal them before they become huge crevices, talk to me about how couples coaching will help. All I ask is that you are both committed to making a change.

Freedom to be you

Many people with relationship problems lose a sense of who they are. This could be for a wide variety of reasons, such as children having left home, too much conflict in the relationship, a change of roles over the years, careers and the pressures of work, a lack of purpose or simply not knowing how they now fit in the relationship.

Working together, we safely explore what you both want, reconnect you with who you want to be going forward and help you get back in touch with each other’s strengths.

You will learn to understand what you need and how to ask for what you need in a way that your partner understands.

Learning to talk

A lack of communication is often the fundamental cause of many relationship problems. Couples start to mind-read each other’s intentions behind their behaviour, avoid conflict, walk on egg-shells around each other, stop listening, find themselves unduly frustrated or angry and find they cannot express themselves in a way their partner understands.

My Couples Coaching Programme will educate you both on your differences so that you have the opportunity to explore and respect these differences and what they can bring to the relationship. You will learn how to really hear each other without becoming defensive and how to speak the same language so you have a far greater chance of being understood. I safely facilitate you to actually grow closer from conflict, or your differences of opinion, so that you can rebuild trust and respect and bring back any lost intimacy.

Dreaming together again

One of the biggest causes of relationship breakdown is when couples find their dreams, aspirations and goals no longer match. One or both of them finds that their picture of a future together becomes grey and unclear. They feel that they no longer share the same values or interests and find themselves starting to leave separate lives, even if this is still under the same roof.

Through my Couples Coaching Programme, we explore what you both really want going forward and whether there is any commonality or synergy in your dreams and aspirations.

In easy steps, we look under the surface to find out what is really important to you and help you build a picture of the future that works for both of you.

Ways of working together with me

A fully personalised and exclusive coaching programme for couples that gets to the root of your issues together and then facilitates you to move forward in a way that works.

Consisting of an initial half-day breakthrough session at my beautiful coaching rooms in Chelmsford, Essex or Newbury, Berkshire. This can also take place at a location closer to you at an additional cost.

This initial half day session will then be followed by 6 x 90 minute sessions.

The programme covers the following areas so that you can both feel empowered and resourced to move forward.

Recognition – How you came to be where you are now and recognising how you want to be as a couple and as individuals moving forward. Becoming curious about the beliefs and patterns that you have both been holding onto about each other and the relationship.

Permission – Agreement to work together going forward and working through an effective way to give each other feedback that is safe, respectful and constructive. Giving each other permission for honesty.

Understanding – Understanding the differences between the two of you as individuals and how to respect and utilise these differences positively in your relationship. Exploring what is important to both of you about the future and your individual needs from the relationship.

Communication – Learning to talk, listen and hear each other. How to disagree constructively.

Unity – Getting in touch with the future dream for each of you and looking at how these dreams and needs have synergy and can support each other. Investigating any lack of synergy and what needs to happen to move forward. Understanding your individual roles going forward and what needs to happen to make this work.

Agreement – Taking everything you have worked through so far and agreeing the best way forward.

Action – Working through a clear strategy and plan for your future, that you can both take ownership of and that works for you. The resources to make those first steps and the support network you need around you in order to get there.

Together we focus on getting to the real issues quickly and safely, enabling you to let go of the unhelpful emotions, beliefs and behaviours that have been holding you back as a couple.

Cost = £1,450

Through a programme of six sessions, each 90 minutes long,  I facilitate you to have real conversations and teach you to really listen to each other so that you can hear and understand.

There is no blame, the only focus is on getting you back to a relationship where you can talk and plan together again. My role is to provide you with a safe space to be honest, look beneath the surface level behaviours you have been seeing in each other and help you both find an agreed way forward.

Coaching and facilitation with me is very different from standard counselling. You will learn how to really hear each other without becoming defensive and how to speak the same language so you have a far greater chance of being understood. I safely facilitate you to actually grow closer from conflict, or your differences of opinion, so that you can rebuild trust and respect and bring back any lost intimacy.

You will learn to understand what you need and how to ask for what you need in a way that your partner understands.

Working with me, you get a relaxed, friendly and supportive approach that works.

You have the choice of working with me at my beautiful coaching rooms in either Chelmsford, Essex or Newbury, Berkshire.

Cost = £840

I recognise that a full coaching programme may not be right for you at the moment but you need the help and support to see some light in your relationship and start to communicate better with each other.

This half day communication breakthrough session combines coaching and facilitation to help you:

  • Understand how you both currently see the relationship
  • Express your individuals needs and wants
  • Understand the strength of each other’s differences
  • Start to build a clear picture of what you both want going forward

Cost = £525